Monday, July 27, 2020

Practicing Mindfulness

Mindfulness, Stress and Health - 3 Tips on Practicing Mindfulness
By Stacy Phillips, MSOPE, NDTR, Certified Independent OPTAVIA Coach


I can’t think of a time better time than now suited to broaching the topic of how to begin
developing a mindfulness practice as a habit of health. Empowering people to get in the
driver’s seat of their personal health, and become the dominant force of what they CAN
control in this arena is what my husband David and I do as Independent OPTAVIA Coaches!


Chronic stress is a killer, and in fact research has shown it is, in fact, an underlying
contributorto many of our lifestyle diseases. Who knew? This decade certainly has had
its fair share ofpotential contributing factors to all of our stress levels. If we were stressed
going IN to 2020,suffice it to say the events of 2020 have had an exponential multiplying
effect on our baseline stress. No one has been untouched by the compounding effects of
potential stressors. Covid-19, civil unrest, job security, the upcoming Presidential Election,
our basic way of life and our way of DOING life has been altered.


So what do we do about it? How can we navigate this season in a way which can leave
us in abetter position in our health than we were on January 1, 2020? 


Research has shown that “pattern disrupts” are THE BEST TIME to make successful
majorchanges in our life and health. Why? Because where we are currently in our life
(including ourhealth) is largely a direct result of our past habits and choices, and many of
the routines we follow have become automated over time, because our brains are wired to
simplify things and to group sequential actions together to conserve brain energy.  So much
so that we forget that those repeated sequences are actually a series of separate actions or
choices strung together. 


Think about when you used to drive home (or still do) from your place of employment, for
example. Do you remember making each turn? No, because you’ve done it so often that
your brain kicks into that one series of repeated automated behaviors as soon as you get in
your car. Much different than when you have to navigate to somewhere you’ve never been
before, which takes a lot more concentration and therefore brainpower! Learning how to drive
a manual transmission car? Same thing. What was cumbersome and a series of individual
sequential actions is now one flowing, almost unconscious, move. It’s hardly even a thought
anymore, it just “happens” automatically when you drive!


Because where we are today is largely a result of the repeated choices, actions and behaviors
we’ve made up until today, in order to make major changes we need to re-wire those automated
“non-conscious” behaviors that DON’T serve us any longer, and develop the new attitudes and
behaviors that can become our NEW healthy habits to create the outcome (life and health) that
we desire.


When I used to think of “Mindfulness and Meditation” I pictured yoga, Indian gurus, incense, and
the notion that meditation meant I needed to “empty my mind”, but that couldn’t be further from
the truth. In fact, if that WERE what it meant, it would be called “Mindlessness”. No, mindfulness
is becoming aware of our emotions, thoughts, and sensations in the NOW, with an attitude of
gentle loving-kindness. Not banishing them, or searching for some nirvana experience of a loss
f self, but simply becoming aware of the present in a way that greets it as it is, accepts it as it is,
in a curious and open way.


Here are 3 tips to starting your mindfulness practice today:


  1. Schedule it into your calendar
Make a commitment to yourself to be consistent with practicing mindfulness. It won’t matter how
elaborate or long you intend your mindfulness session to be if you never do it. Either put it in
your calendar, or tie it to something you do at least once every day, for example “walking to the
mailbox and back”. No, you aren’t in a dark room on a mat with no distractions, but it doesn’t
matter where you do it, it is THAT you do it. Even the 5 minutes it takes to walk to your mailbox,
if you set your intent to practice mindfulness or open up your mindfulness app and DO it, you
are ahead simply from your consistency. For me, I’ve been practicing mindfulness twice a day
every day while hand watering my 100+ plants I’ve procured for the “Health & Hope”
Tropical Garden I’m creating. I go out in the morning and at night, and it takes me at least 30
minutes each time. I go out with the cares and worries of the world swirling around my brain,
and I don’t come in until I’m fully present and focused on my trees, vines and shrubs, in the now.


  1. Start Small
You don't have to start with a one-hour session! In fact, you could do mindfulness meditation
right now, for 1 minute, 5 minutes, or longer. I have to tell you if you’ve never done it before
you will likely need to work up to longer timeframes. It’s about putting focused attention on the
he NOW. It isn’t about KEEPING your mind from wandering, it is about noticing when it does
and bringing it back to what you were focusing on every time. There are two Apps I can
recommend, the first for bringing mindfulness to every healthy habit in life is the "Habits of
Health" App, which we use in the program we coach. A great App focused solely on developing
a mindful meditation practice is “Headspace”.


  1. Attitude Matters
The attitude and intent we bring to our mindfulness meditation matters, in fact it makes the
difference. If we go inward to examine our thoughts, emotions and sensations in the present
but we bring to it an attitude of negativity or harsh critical judgment, we are not practicing
mindfulness. Intent matters, and the attitude we bring needs to be one of gentle
loving-kindness. Greeting what we find as if it is a welcome friend at our door. Focused
attention without a gracious attitude towards what we are putting our attention on can
do more harm than good, this is NOT a "search and destroy” mission. 


You can develop mindfulness in any activity, but start by simply asking yourself “what am
I feeling (emotion), thinking, or sensing (physical sensations) in this moment, right now?
There are many resources to begin developing a more formal mindful meditation practice
of your own, reach out to me if you’d like some of those at mycoachstacy@gmail.com .


Ultimately, mindfulness is a choice. We can either view the world as happening “to” us,
or “for” us and mindfulness meditation can help us be fully present in the moment, and
responding wisely for our own benefit and the benefit of others, instead of always “reacting”.
And the real benefits for our health and longevity are undisputed.  


I’m still a student of mindfulness and mindful meditation, and I’m learning more every day.
Recently I’ve had the opportunity to test and expand my skills, as my son Julian and husband
David are in the Bay Area right now while Julian awaits his second kidney transplant. We don’t
know how long they will be there, as my son is on dialysis at Stanford Children’s Hospital
while they search for a match. We’ve rented a tiny house for them, close to the hospital.
It could be 3 months or 13 months or longer, we simply don’t know. For me, I’ve chosen
to begin the process of creating a “Health & Hope” Tropical Garden in our backyard so that
when they return we have a beautiful place where we can spend time in nature. The
creation of the garden is an exercise in continuing my mindfulness practice. I’m choosing
to view this time as an opportunity for growth, to revisit and relearn my healthy habits, as
this major “pattern disrupt” is playing out in our lives. 


The world we live in will never be free of stressors, but how we respond to those stressors
can make all the difference to our health.







Wednesday, June 17, 2020

June 17, 2020 Thoughts

June 17, 2020 Thoughts?
Things I've been learning through the Habits of Health Transformational System:
Reframing our narrative. Is the world happening TO me or FOR me?
This has been a recurring theme in my life these last few years, and I've been asking myself this question almost every morning recently in order to frame my mindset for the rest of the day. Some days I dip into uncertainty, fear, doubt, and feeling a sense of "helplessness" but I'm getting much more adept at identifying that "feeling", that set of emotions that can begin to settle in (they have a very distinct vibe, a unique signature of thoughts and emotions) and I've been practicing the skill of intentionally choosing to "shift" my state out of those emotions and thoughts and back into gratitude and growth.
Today I am grateful for the life I have and the opportunities God has given me to contend (not struggle, CONTEND), and to overcome. Without challenges, there would be no overcoming, right? Without obstacles there would be no compelling story, right?
Before someone cared enough about me to share this amazing process/program with me, I pretty much lived in a state of victimhood. I spent several decades of my adult life being angry. Angry at myself, angry at others, even angry at God.
But now, through these last years of choosing to align myself with the amazing people here and this amazing mission of hope and health I KNOW that I DO have an active role in fashioning my own personal health and well being, and it's my responsibility to invite others onto this path, too. How can I NOT?
And this I know: The story I write can either be an inspiring story of courage and grit, like the Gladiator, Secretariat, or Shawshank Redemption (a few of my favorite movies), or it can be a Greek tragedy.
It's up to me.
It's my choice, as the author.
I was born with free will, and that includes the freedom to choose how I will think, what habits of thought I will develop.
Yes things do happen in this world which are beyond my control, and events and circumstances which directly and indirectly effect and impact me and my family in very real ways. It's HOW I VIEW and interpret these events, the choices I make and the actions I take as a result of the meaning I've chosen to ascribe to these events, which determine whether I'm being a victim or a victor.
What CAN I control? I CAN  control how I show up in this epic story of my life. How I show up for myself, how I show up for my family, my neighbors, and the world.
So that is the question I ask myself every morning, "How will I choose to show up TODAY in my life and in the lives of others?"
I choose to make this year the best year yet. I choose to make this day the best day yet. I choose to make this hour the best hour yet. I choose to make my NOW the best NOW yet.
It's a process, it's a journey, and I am so grateful DAILY for Dr. A and this amazing community.


Monday, March 16, 2020

Corona Virus Covid-19 Pandemic Catalyst for Healthy Changes: Pattern Disruption/Interruption on Steroids

Corona Virus Covid-19 Pandemic Catalyst for Healthy Changes: Pattern Disruption/Interruption on Steroids
By Stacy Phillips 


Can you say "Pattern Disruption on STEROIDS?" I can.
We’ve just been handed a BIG one!
Studies in behavior change psychology and neuroscience (actually changing our wiring and firing in our brains) have shown that “pattern interruption” can play a BENEFICIAL (understatement) role in our lives, IF we are wanting to make changes in our habits and lifestyles (Smith, et. al, 2016)*
We are, right NOW, experiencing the biggest “pattern disruption/pattern interruption” I have ever experienced in my entire life (including 9/11). We are likely to have at LEAST this level (LIKELY much more) disruption for the next few months into July or August, according to the Presidents Corona virus task force briefing today.
"So tell me, Stacy, cuz I've really got to hear this one, how in the WORLD can you even say that this might be a good thing?!?!?!"
No. I'm not saying HOW our patterns got disrupted is good in this case. Sometimes we can CREATE a favorable one, on purpose, such as going on a spiritual retreat for example, or church-camp when we were little, taking a beach vacation, etc. Basically a pattern disruption on a grand scale changes our situation and surroundings to such a degree that it takes us (and our brains along with us, in most cases lol) OUT of what is familiar. As a result, our brains can't rely on automation AS MUCH (I don't know HOW I got into this Taco Bell drive-thru, I don't remember CHOOSING to be here, the car kinda drove itself....).
WHEN we are out of "our element" so to speak, when things or situations or places are LESS familiar to us, we DO become more mindful, present and aware of our surroundings as a result. We can do that on purpose, by design, or we can do that by default because of circumstances outside of our control. THIS WILL HAPPEN to us all.
What IS in our control is our decision as to whether this will cause us to become MORE CHRONICALLY STRESSED, or can BENEFIT us in the short and long run.
Again, our focus WILL be more acute, things ARE going to be less familiar, and our brains are going to have to put a lot of extra effort into the next weeks and months, simply by the nature of the fact that it is new.
TWO OPTIONS:
1) No intentional positive changes are made during this time:
If we are focusing (by default) on the crisis, bad news, our perceived helplessness in it all, the negativity all over the internet, or the entire 8 (or is it 9?) seasons of Game of Thrones from the beginning because we are seeking to distract ourselves or find "escape" from our circumstances, it's likely we will only increase our chronic stress. When our chronic stress is INCREASED it causes a decrease both in immunity and resilience to disease if we DO catch something. (https://www.apa.org/research/action/immune)
Can I recommend AGAINST that scenario? Especially right now?
2) Intentional positive changes are made during this time:
If, instead, we can shift our FOCUS (because we will have intense focus over the next days, weeks and months) onto stepping into a process of intentionally developing habits of health, with guidance and an amazing community, well, predictable transformation CAN occur in our lives. I've seen it time and time again, in our lives and the lives of many others we've worked with.
Either way, welcome to the pattern disruption. A pandemic, (and the preventative measures and precautions being taken RIGHT NOW) can most certainly be DEFINED as a pattern disruption, a pattern interruption. And science tells us that it is not the reason behind how our patterns were disrupted, but what we DO with that disruption that matters, and it IS often in deepest adversity that the seed of change finally takes root and people begin to take charge of their own lives.
This is what happened with David and I, when we decided to change our lives 10 years ago, after Julian's kidney transplant.
So, a key question I took some time to ask and answer for myself last week was "How can I reframe this narrative to change how I look at the next two weeks?" Or how about the next two months? We weren’t the architects of this particular pattern interrupt, but I think it’s safe to say that we will ALL be affected by it!
I know the direction I want to head in my health, and I’m going to use this time to both develop NEW and hone /refine EXISTING healthy habits, to weave them into my life in all areas! Nutrition, motion, sleep, and my healthy surroundings!
And I'll tell you what, I want friends on this journey with me, using group zooms, text, social media, private community facebook groups and phone calls for encouragement and support, because creating new ways of being in community is going to be KEY for all of us during this season and beyond! And it's no fun to do this alone, in a vacuum. David and I dialing it in, and we want to dial it in WITH you!
This year, let St. Patricks Day be a reset on our New Year’s Resolutions.
Let this be a HOPEFUL time, and know that we CAN use this time to THRIVE in our health, which is the BEST GIFT WE CAN GIVE ourselves and our family, literally, during THIS TIME, for all the reasons that have been talked about in the last month. Evidence is coming out from China and now around the world that the healthier we are, the more resilient we are to this virus. David and I have seen people begin to transform their lives and get RESULTS (when they work closely with us) right away, our clients feel better and have more energy in a very short time, no matter where they started in their health on their journey!
I’ve been taught by those wiser than me that “The Obstacle IS the Way”, and there is a GIFT on the other side of the obstacle, FIND THE GIFT in this adversity. Ironically, it may be that the time is finally right for you, amidst this uncertain time of a GLOBAL PANDEMIC, that you FIND your health. What an amazing story that would be. We’re here for you, if you want to explore what that might look like, working with us, and who knows, even perhaps partnering with us to help those you love also.
A candle’s flame is never diminished when it lights another candle.
This is what David and I DO, and it is our desire to walk with you INTO health, yes even during this time! Will this be an OBSTACLE for getting healthy, or a CATALYST for getting healthy? You decide!
I pray for a speedy resolution, and as we come up on Easter and Passover Celebrations, both these holidays are even more meaningful (which sounds strange, but it is true) here in 2020 to me in their messages, even though they’ve always been dear to my heart.
PS. We CAN even set up your nutrition plan to where you don’t need to enter the grocery store for ANY reason until you are a healthy weight! Yeah. We can do that if that is important to you.
*Smith KS, Graybiel AM. Habit formation. Dialogues Clin Neurosci. 2016;18(1):33–43. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4826769/

Be well. Stay Safe.
Rinse and Repeat.
Stacy Phillips
MS, NDTR, Independent OPTAVIA Coach
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