Sunday, January 3, 2016

Just Found a Cool Article on "Life in the 1800's" and Some Thoughts....


Just found a cool article on "Life in the 1800's" and I was particularly interested in what they ATE back then. Here is what it said:

"Food: Because these innovations in transportation were still in their infancy in 1815, however, most Americans ate what they grew or hunted locally. Corn and beans were common, along with pork. In the north, cows provided milk, butter, and beef, while in the south, where cattle were less common, venison and other game provided meat. Preserving food in 1815, before the era of refrigeration, required smoking, drying, or salting meat. Vegetables were kept in a root cellar or pickled.For those who had to purchase their food, one record notes the following retail prices in 1818 in Washington, D.C.: beef cost 6 to 8 cents a pound, potatoes cost 56 cents a bushel, milk was 32 cents a gallon, tea 75 cents to $2.25 a pound. Shoes ran $2.50 a pair. Clothing expenses for a family of six cost $148 a year, though the record does not indicate the quality of the clothes."
We have come a long way with innovation and food production since then, and not all changes have been good! However, it really struck me how hard everyone had to work for their food.
My hubby and son recently finished the book "The Long Winter" as told by Laura Ingalls Wilder, of the Little House on the Prairie series, and listening to my husband read the book was eye-opening too!
Back then they ate what they grew. What they couldn't grow they bought at a small General Store in town, but during the blizzards and cold winters sometimes the journey into town was perilous so many of the families would move in to town or risk death by freezing or starvation. Even then, town resources dwindled, and they would pray for a thaw so they could get more wheat in the ground.
It struck me how beautifully God designed our bodies, to store fat in times of plenty and use it in times of need, or famine. This design has not changed, so with the abundance of food at our fingertips our bodies keep preparing and preparing and preparing for a famine that never comes! This is why our program is so effective, because it gives our bodies a REASON to use that stored energy. If you take the emotions and the shame or guilt out of the equation, our bodies are simply following the instructions we are giving them! We simply keep telling our bodies that this is a time of plenty (by the way we eat) and so our bodies keep saying "well, OK then, I'll just tuck this energy away for later, in case I need it!"



The solution is really to let our bodies embark on a "planned fast" so to speak, a CONTROLLED fast-like scenario which the weight loss portion of our Take Shape For Life Program does BEAUTIFULLY, in a clinically-proven effective and SAFE way.
Our bodies then RESPOND to these new instructions, and if we can get over ourselves and simply follow the plan (not easy, but "simple") amidst the constant barrage of calories our culture exposes us to ever day, we can attain a healthy weight!
Sometimes we disparage the process (I know I can!), and fall into a deprivation mindset, feel like victims of our program, and feel sorry for ourselves. I am vowing to myself that WHEN I do this, I remind myself of how our ancestors got by with such limited choices during those cold, hard winters. Pickled vegetables (if they had access to them), jerky-type meats (if they had access to them), some cornbread and butter (if they had access to them) and WOW talk about lack of variety! I have it SO EASY compared to them. I am going to consider myself a "Pioneer in my Health" and simply get down to the business of doing the plan, and doing the work. How about you? What are your hopes and dreams for yourself? Let's do this together!

Message me TODAY to get your Healthy 2016 Transformation going! Or e-mail me at: mycoachstacy@gmail.com

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Friday, January 1, 2016

January 1st AGAIN!


Friday, January 1, 2016

January 1st! Again!



Well, January 1st has done it again!  
It has arrived!  2016! 

So what am I going to DO with it?  A whole new YEAR with a whole new set of POSSIBILITIES!  

As I ponder this blank slate that time has provided me, I really do get excited, and a little bit retrospective on the previous year, 2015.  Although I didn't accomplish all I wanted to accomplish in 2015, the wonderful thing is that I can simply move forward, set my goals, and continue growing.

The questions I ask myself for the previous year are these:
What happened?
What did I miss?
What's next?

I do this NOT to beat myself up over the last year by going to to that place in my head which fosters piles of recrimination or regret.  No, it is merely to say "OK, so what can I START doing that I WASN'T doing in 2015?  

I've come up with an AWESOME list for myself, one that gets me jazzed, makes me feel hopeful, and one that stretches me in awesome ways.

1.  Focus TODAY, just TODAY, on my Healthy Habits.  
2.  Tomorrow, Rinse and Repeat.

What ARE these Habits of Health that I know WORK to create optimal health in myself?

It's not hard, and I don't have to go far to find them.  In fact, I've been familiarizing myself with them and practicing them to various degrees for 5 years now!  Some days, weeks, months, years I practice them more consistently than others.  This last year (2015) I got OUT of the habit of practicing my healthy habits.  THIS year I am focusing on practicing those healthy habits once again and firmly entrenching them in my day-to-day and hour-to-hour choices.

How I organize my day when I am practicing my Habits of Health is the following:

1.  I Wake up (always beneficial and highly recommended).
2.  Have breakfast, consisting of 1 Portion-Controlled Meal Replacement and 1 cup of coffee with 2 TBSP (real) half and half and 1 packet of splenda.
3.  While having breakfast I have my quiet time and read a few pages of Dr. A's Habits of Health Book.
4.  Do my morning correspondence (e-mails, facebook) while drinking 36 ounces of water with 1 Calorie-Burn Flavor infuser mixed in.
5.  Write a Journal or write a blog-entry, work on personal development, which can include Bible Study outside the home, Chamber of Commerce meetings, online courses in areas of interest to me (presently I am listening to podcasts on "Storytelling" and "Uncluttering your Life and Soul").
6.  Have my second Portion-Controlled Meal Replacement and shower and dress for the day. 
7.  Get my shoes on and get out the door for some walking, hiking, or running, followed by a 30 minute far-infrared sauna.
8.  Have my second Portion-Controlled Meal Replacement and shower and dress for the day.
9.  Go to the grocery store for the "daily veg".
10.  Prepare and eat a healthy "Lean and Green" lunch consisting of a fixed amount of protein and vegetables, while consuming 36 more ounces of water.
11. The afternoon consists of appointments, errands, housework, schoolwork, playing with my son, talking with my husband.
12. Portion-Controlled Meal Replacement at 3:00 pm.
13. Portion-Controlled Meal Replacement at 6:00 pm, and drink 36 more ounces of water.
14. Unplug from my computer & turn off the TV at 8:30 pm
15. Portion-Controlled Meal Replacement at 9:00 pm.
16. Bedtime, 9:30 pm.

This, in a nutshell, is my day if anyone was wondering.

I log my food, I wear my fitbit, I keep my goals clear in my head.   

Is It a Closet? Or is it a Mirror?


It's on.  Today I sized up my closet, and my closet sized up me.  Neither of us were extremely pleased with what we saw.  But that is about to CHANGE.  WHEN  you ask?  As soon as I finish typing this blog!

Today I had an epiphany.  An "Ah-Ha" moment.  When those moments of clarity break through into my brain I stop.  And I listen.  Here is what my clarity-moment made me realize:

My Closet is a Window into my Brain.  A Mirror of sorts.

Let me explain.

When I am not feeling great about my health, or when I feel like things are slipping with my healthy habits, I avoid my closet.  And when I say "avoid" I mean AVOID.  Clothes pile up on the floor instead of being hung up or folded and neatly placed on a shelf.  Shoes get thrown in (usually one at a time once I've located them in various places around the house).  My closet is, in a word, MAYHEM.

This last year, 2015, I have slipped in my healthy habits.  So you can imagine what a year of neglect looks like.  Just look at my closet.  Clutter.  Disorganization.  Recrimination.  Judgment.  Regret.......

OK maybe not all that other stuff, but it sure feels like all of that when I open the closet door.  That is IF I can clear off enough space on the other side of the floor near the door to actually fully OPEN the door.

Clothes that you can't fit into can do that, can't they?  We give them power over us, over our psyche, and they hang there unworn, or lay there on the floor when you last wore them months and months ago, and even LOOKING at something you can't fit in to sends electric jolts of despair and regret and shame coursing through your body.  Well, if it doesn't do that to you, it sure does it to me!

On the other hand, when I'm regularly practicing healthy habits, I LOVE my closet!  It is neat, tidy, orderly, and USED frequently.  The clothes hang there, as if smiling at me, saying "Choose me!  Choose me!  I fit!  I fit!", and it is a joy to select what I want to wear that day.

Now maybe I'm making too much of the whole closet as a window to my brain thing, but I don't think I am.  I believe our external environment is an extension of ourselves.  If I am cluttered in my brain, and if I am not taking care of myself or my health, that extends beyond the boundary of my epidermal layer of "me" (my skin).  When I am not nurturing myself, loving myself, and doing the things necessary to take care of myself and my health then everything and everyone around me suffers.  I lack the emotional energy to take care of my family, because I'm all-consumed with the roiling cluttered emotions of ME.  It is kind of self-centered in a NEGATIVE way.

Today I begin the process of getting back ME.  I'm on day three of my tune-up with my health, and today I can walk into my closet (figuratively...I think I will really need to start at the door and make a path first to really get IN the closet) with hope and joy, knowing that I AM taking care of myself.

My size 2-4 clothing which have been neglected for the past year will not stare me down in judgment, but if they could talk they would say "Hello!  Nice to see you!  Can't wait for you to wear me again, it will be SOON!"

And I'll smile, pick them up lovingly, and put them in their proper place.  By the end of the day TODAY, I WILL have a clean and beautiful closet again, which speaks hope and anticipation of the things to come.  Just like my mind.

Closet Before and After Pictures to come!

Now wish me luck....and focus...and determination....and perseverance....I'm going IN, with a little vintage "Collective Soul" playing on my new CD Player..."It's Simple"!

Rinse and Repeat!

Thursday, November 5, 2015

"It takes 10 times as long to put yourself back together as it does to fall apart"

“It takes ten times as long to put yourself back together as it does to fall apart.”- Finnick Odair

As we wait for the highly anticipated Part II of "Hunger Games: The Mockingjay" to be released next week, I wanted to highlight a quote from "Part I".  

The quote that grabbed me the most was made by Finnick Odair, who is, along with Katniss Everdeen, a "Victor-veteran-from-the-Hunger-Games-turned-rebel-freedom-fighter."  

Both of these characters fall into the category of "reluctant heroes" in that they didn't get to CHOOSE the challenges they are facing, but rise in the midst of those challenges to face them head on and to do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, in order to attain the freedom they desire from the clutches of the oppressive Capital.

In one scene, Katniss and Finnick have an exchange where Katniss is asking Finnick how he manages to go on amidst the despair of knowing that the love of his life is still in the grips of President Snow, the evil dictator of the Capital.  In his answer, he says to her that "it takes ten times as long to put yourself back together is it does to fall apart."  

This struck a chord with me, as on my health journey it takes constant vigilant effort to continue to make wise decisions and to maintain what I have worked so hard to create with my health.  I know the truth of these words, in that if a few poor decisions begin to snowball I can rapidly tumble down a hill and undo very quickly the progress I have made, and it takes ten times more effort to pull myself back from the brink than it would have had I not chosen to go over the brink in the first place.  

It is never too late to become the person we "might have" been, however, and I am not afraid of a little hard work and dedication.  What I am committed to improving is my actions.  I feel sometimes like a reluctant hero - to myself.

I didn't choose my body, I didn't choose my genes, and I know that I will always put on excess weight again if I live "beyond my means" as regards food.  Excess intake and excess calories and decreased activity will ALWAYS result in weight gain for me, and this, again, is not something I chose but it IS the only body I have and I can either honor its limitations and live the healthy life I want to live DESPITE those challenges, OR I can tumble down the hill and kiss my health goodbye.  

Katniss is driven by the love she has for  her family and the love she has for Peeta (who is also in the custody of the evil Capital) to do what needs to be done, to rise to the challenges of the situation, and to fight for what she believes in even though at times she is not quite sure herself what is so special about her in particular which has thrust her into the position of "heroine."  

Katniss didn't choose her circumstances but she does choose how to respond.  

I didn't choose to have the body that I have, I didn't choose my genetic profile, but I DO decide what to DO with it.  I DO decide which direction my life is going and what ACTIONS I will take to achieve the purpose I am called to.  I am choosing freedom in the midst of my circumstances, because I make the decision what to do next as regards my health.  And I will fight for what I have accomplished, I will not back down.  If temporary setbacks come I will continue to ACT in a manner which will move me forward in my health. 

Today.  Right now.  This moment.  

Are you struggling with unhealthy habits, some of which you may not even be able to identify because you feel so hopeless that you can make any significant changes and don't even know where to begin?  I have news for you.  It is NEVER too late to begin.  But beginning IS key, not simply "planning to" or "hoping to" or "intending to".  Real change comes when you BEGIN to really change.  Do you need help with that?  I am a FREE C.O.P.E Certified Take Shape For Life Health Coach and I have a passion for helping people ACTUALLY begin.  I can help you turn your intentions and your hopes into REAL, meaningful and lasting change, but I need YOUR help to help YOU.  Namely, e-mail me at mycoachstacy@gmail.com and let's get the ball rolling.  Today.  This moment.  Just do it!  I won't tell you to kill yourself at the gym.  I won't have you shopping and planning and preparing food for hours every day or even every week.  I won't have you counting calories, carbs, fat or fiber.  I won't have you popping pills or getting injections or going for surgery or seeking hypnotherapy.  I won't have you "cleansing" your body with needless products built on hype with no real evidence they are doing anything other than what your body does normally with it's liver and kidneys and colon.  Our program is SUPER simple and can be done with crazy busy lives and relatively little planning.  Let's focus on getting YOU healthy.  

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Rinse and Repeat!

Friday, October 2, 2015





Do you sometimes feel like this couple on the couch? Hearing the latest "revelation" of what is NOW good for you that was BAD for you just YESTERDAY? Coffee is bad for you. No, Coffee is now GOOD for you. Butter is bad for you and margarine is best. No, margarine has trans-fats in causes cancer. Chocolate is good for you but it has to be at least 80% dark to have any benefits. Wine is good for you because of resveratrol so pop this resveratrol pill instead. No, apparently resveratrol pills alone don't have the same effect as the substance does when taken whole with the wine. WHAT is a PERSON to BELIEVE?!? Remember that I'm here to help you get through all the bunk and create the health you want, without having to spend every hour obsessing over what you'll eat next, without the incessant planning, shopping, preparing, who has time for all of that? Our program is clinically proven, and time tested for ACTUAL results. It was developed by Cardiologists from Johns Hopkins University, which is a teaching and research university, and has stood the test of time! We've been around for about 30 years and have been recommended by over 20,000 physicians nationwide. Don't SIMPLY trust the "internet" for your health news. You want a professional in your corner. That professional is me. That's my advice of the day.


I read a great perspective on health today by Kate Skinner, an Australian Dietitian.
"For every good study, there are at least 10 pretty mediocre ones – poorly planned, with uncontrolled variables, small cohort, observational, commercially swayed, etc. For each one of these, there’s dozens of sensationalized media headlines that further compound the confusion. One study that correlates dietary animal fats with heart disease incidence might just as well equate wearing blue jeans with ill health by the same tunnel-visioned logic. The thing is, there’s a million other uncontrolled variables at play. Correlation does not equal causation.

Most health ‘recommendations’ don’t solely have the interests of the individual at heart, or even hard science, for that matter. There tend to be other competing factors involved – marketing, profit, popularity, maintaining current opinions, etc. it’s worth keeping this in mind when you’re evaluating the latest ‘detox’ program, supplement, fitness regime or popular diet – consider where the information is coming from and why, and question accordingly.

The same goes for food labeling. A “gluten-free”/”organic”/”natural” sticker doesn’t necessarily correlate with any increased nutritional benefit of attached food products (although such labels seem to align proportionally with cost, as a rule).The same applies to foods and products touted as “wholegrain”/ “low-GI”/“low-fat”/“sugar-free”/ “vegetable-based”/“Heart Foundation approved” – don’t make the mistake of assuming these terms are synonymous with what’s best for your body. I have seen “health” foods and products, in popular health food shops and aisles, that are some of the worst offenders out there. Generally, the most optimal foods don’t need fancy health claims.

The same goes for food labeling. A “gluten-free”/”organic”/”natural” sticker doesn’t necessarily correlate with any increased nutritional benefit of attached food products (although such labels seem to align proportionally with cost, as a rule).The same applies to foods and products touted as “wholegrain”/ “low-GI”/“low-fat”/“sugar-free”/ “vegetable-based”/“Heart Foundation approved” – don’t make the mistake of assuming these terms are synonymous with what’s best for your body. I have seen “health” foods and products, in popular health food shops and aisles, that are some of the worst offenders out there. Generally, the most optimal foods don’t need fancy health claims.

Really want to jump on the ‘detox’ bandwagon? Educate yourself about how your liver functions to naturally ‘detoxify’ the body each and every day, without the need for some wacky cleansing routine (besides, going on a ‘detox’ suggests an initial ‘tox’ or post-detox ‘retox’, no?).

Even for the dedicated health nuts and health experts, to quote Mark Twain, 'don’t let your education get in the way of your learning'. Scientific progress isn’t made without questioning and critically evaluating the status quo."

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

The Ulysses Contract and the Straitjacket

Do you know what I like?

Metaphors.  I am BIG on metaphors and symbolism.  Yeah, that is what this blog is about, absolutely.

The metaphor of my straitjacket and how it relates to my health journey.

Yes, you read that correctly, MY STRAITJACKET.  Call me crazy, you wouldn't be the first.

Let me explain.

So there are times in my health journey, and maybe you can relate and maybe you can't, where I choose to give up my power to choose.  What that means is that there are times where I feel powerless over the unhealthy decisions I am making on a daily basis.  When I act on those feelings, I fall back into my unhealthy habits of being sedentary and eating whatever is convenient, whatever I think I "want".

Now, my body is such that WHEN I DO THIS and when I PRACTICE these behaviors and make them my norm, however temporary, there are CONSEQUENCES.  Being a post-obese person, I will always have to be mindful of what I am putting into my body and how much I am moving on a regular basis, or I WILL gain my weight back.  That's simply science, genetics, and the human body.  My body.  If these "episodes" of falling back into my unhealthy habits last a day or two, I can recover quickly and continue on relatively unscathed.  If these "episodes" last a week or two, or three, or a month or two, or three, then the recovery is much more difficult and puts my entire health journey at risk of continuing on in a direction I know I do NOT want it to go.

In Dr. A's Habits of Health there is a chapter on creating a "micro-environment of health" around ourselves, because if there are unhealthy foods in the house we are more likely to get into them, thereby sabotaging our efforts to create or maintain health in our lives.

Yes.  I know the truth of this.  I have heard often, and have even heard myself saying at times that "it is SO hard" to stay on an eating program consistently.  I have heard, and have heard myself saying in my mind, something like this:

"I just don't understand!  I'm SO faithful to my program for half the day, but then 4:00 in the afternoon rolls around and it is like a flip is switched and I act like I don't care, when I KNOW I DO!"

Simply said, we feel at those times that we don't have a choice, that we don't have control, that we are powerless to exercise our self-discipline or "willpower" against the temptations.  This can be seasonal, this can be monthly, this can be every weekend, or even every DAY.  The mechanism is the same: we act in a manner which is inconsistent with where we SAID we wanted to go in our health.

So, what do we do?  Do we give up on our dream of attaining and maintaining a healthy weight?  Attaining and maintaining optimal health?  Some days it seems that giving up is the only solution.  We try to convince ourselves to DECREASE our expectations, to MINIMIZE our dreams, to say "let's be REALISTIC HERE".  We say "everybody fails at some point" or "I'm only human".

I say NO.  We don't have to give up our power to CHOOSE HEALTH.  Even when we feel like we already have.

So, back to the straightjacket.  I was joking around with someone who was expressing to me their concept that it is IMPOSSIBLE to get away from temptation.  Everywhere you go, unless you lock yourself in your house (in a room other than your kitchen) and strap yourself to a chair, there is temptation.  You can't stop living, right?  This gave me an idea.  The idea of the straitjacket.

I don't know how to word this to make it sound less crazy than it is going to sound, but again, remember that I am speaking metaphorically.  However, I DO happen to have a "prop" for my metaphor.  Yes, I purchased a straitjacket.  It is hanging in my mom-cave, and I'm thinking of taping some bubble-wrap to one of the walls in my mom-cave so I can call it "the padded room with the straitjacket" for fun.

The symbolism is similar to a "Ulysses Pact," or "Ulysses Contract".  Three millennia ago lived a man named "Ulysses" who was King of Ithaca and a hero of the Trojan War.  Legend has it that after the war, Ulysses was on his sea voyage back to his homeland when he realized he had a rare opportunity.  His ship would be passing near the island of Sirenum scopuli, where beautiful Sirens sang their alluring songs which would drive men mad.  The problem was, the ships crew would always turn their ships towards the sound, and their ships would be dashed to pieces on the rocks near the island, killing all aboard.  Ulysses wanted to hear the siren song, but he knew that he would not be immune to their charms.  After all, he possessed a human mind.  Wikipedia shares further the origin of the name, and the meaning of "the contract" or "the pact":

The term refers to the pact that Ulysses (Greek name "Ὀδυσσεύς", Odysseus) made with his men as they approached the Sirens. Ulysses wanted to hear the Sirens' song although he knew that doing so would render him incapable of rational thought. He put wax in his men's ears so that they could not hear, and had them tie him to the mast so that he could not jump into the sea. He ordered them not to change course under any circumstances, and to keep their swords upon him and to attack him if he should break free of his bonds.  Upon hearing the Sirens' song, Ulysses was driven temporarily insane and struggled with all of his might to break free so that he might join the Sirens, which would have meant his death."

Ulysses wisely knew that there was a circumstance that would arise where he would not feel capable of acting rationally, so in making the decision to "bind himself" voluntarily for a season he knew that he would be OK.  This was within his control, and he created a "micro-micro environment of health" by putting himself in a circumstance whereby he could continue to live the life he wanted to live.

Sometimes I feel like all the "bargains" I make with myself in the mornings crumble and fall to dust in the evenings.  Am I crazy?  No.  The book "Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain" by David Eagleman discusses the science behind the conversations, inconsistencies and battles that we do with ourselves in our brains.  These are rooted in neuroscience and in light of the science, contradictory thoughts and/or behaviors are actually perfectly normal.  They exist in every individual, to varying degrees, and it is important to understand there is nothing "wrong" with us when we come up against the manifestation of these contradictory thoughts or behaviors.  Knowing about them is power in and of itself, because it means that I can arm myself rationally for those times when I may be prone to acting irrationally, or outside of my long-term goals and dreams.  Eagle states in his book that Ulysses knew that the "future" Ulysses would be in no position to make good decisions.  Therefore, the Ulysses of sound mind structured things in such a way as to prevent himself from doing something foolish when they passed the upcoming island.  It was a deal struck between the present Ulysses and the future one.  Eagleman goes on to say that this myth highlights the way in which minds can develop a meta-knowledge about how the short- and long-term parties interact.  The amazing consequence is that minds can negotiate with different time points of themselves.  It is a proactive binding of a future self, a future opportunity or action that you may take but don't want to.

Hence, the symbolism of the straitjacket.  You see, I can CHOOSE to have my husband put me IN the straightjacket at 4pm if I feel I am headed for danger.  I haven't ACTUALLY done that (had him put me IN the straitjacket), but the sheer knowledge that I DO have a choice even when I don't feel I have a choice is powerful for me.

When that "4pm" rolls around, and I feel like I'm losing control, I can simply go into my Mom-cave, sit in my cushy arm chair, and look at the straitjacket that is hanging on a hangar in there.  Simply by doing that, simply by remembering the symbolism of the Ulysses Contract, I can buy myself a few minutes away from the temptation, and I can remind myself that I do, in fact, ALWAYS have a choice.  Even if that choice is installing myself in the straitjacket, and having my husband cinch up the buckles and feed my remaining on-plan Meal Replacement and water for the rest of the day.  The hilarity of that possibility is enough to make me laugh and snap be back to remembering my health goals and, more importantly, acting in a manner that is CONSISTENT with them for the rest of the evening.

I will never say that attaining and maintaining optimal health is easy-peasy lemon squeezey.  It isn't.  It has been an intense journey of self-discovery and personal growth, and I actually wouldn't change a thing.  It IS a choice.  It IS possible.  I have the tools, I have the will, I have the understanding, and to the degree which I can have my ACTIONS agree with my INTENTIONS I will continue to succeed in my quest to attain and maintain optimal health.

Oh, and if you need to borrow my straitjacket, just let me know.
 

Monday, June 8, 2015

It's Hard Sometimes - Redo........

"It's hard sometimes. Realizing that my body has limitations, that it will always respond to the instructions I give it, I have to say, sometimes I catch myself having a little pity party with thoughts such as "Why can I just be be "normal" and eat "normal" and live a "normal" life? Why do I have to log and measure everything I put in my mouth? Why, if I go off my eating plan for a couple of days, will the weight just pop on magically with NO regards to how hard I worked to get it OFF in the first place?"

Well, to that I have to say "suck it up, Buttercup!" Yep. Then I pull out my Dr. A's Habits of Health book, my "Refuse to Regain" book, my "Why We Get Fat and What to Do About It" book and take some time to reboot my brain.

Because I know when I'm thinking those thoughts I'm drifting down the rabbit-hole of denial and deprivation, and that is NOT the mindset I have trained myself over the years to have.

SO. Let me talk for a moment about what is ACTUALLY hard.

Being FAT was hard. People scrutinizing everything I put in my basket was hard. Not fitting in to a booth seat at a restaurant was hard. Needing to ask for a seatbelt extender on an airplane was hard. My son calling my "Sully" from Monster's Inc. was hard. Knowing I wasn't living my best life was hard.

Being fat is hard. Losing weight is hard. Choose your hard."

I wrote that blog late last week, as I was beginning to struggle with a deprivation mindset. On Saturday I learned about a friend I had made just out of High School, named Patrick Chawki, and the "hard" kind of life he has had since I knew him in 1987. I realized that it is a LUXURY to struggle with the things I struggle with, some people don't even get to CHOOSE which "hard" they want. It made me very mindful of the fact that life can simply be, well, hard.

Here is the link to Patrick's story, as told in 2009 by ESPN.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k5mYQnHoaw8

In 2000 he came down with "Locked-in Syndrome" which is very rare, and awareness of this disease, or syndrome, was raised in 2007 by the movie "The Diving Bell and the Butterfly" which portrayed the experiences someone with Locked-in Syndrome has, from a first-person perspective. If you watch the 14-minute video, I can almost guarantee that you will be crying by the end. I know I was.

It hit me that this young man, with a wife and 2 beautiful children, lost his ability to speak, to walk, and to eat within the span of 20 days. In 20 days his life went from HAVING choices to NOT having choices. Here I was thinking I was struggling with feelings of deprivation because I "couldn't eat what I wanted when I wanted to" and this friend of mine can't even EAT anymore.

Patrick has been in this condition now for 15 years. My heart breaks for him, for his family, but he is an inspiration to me. He didn't choose his "hard" and he is still smiling and giving a "thumbs up" even amidst his present circumstances. Patrick is a lesson to me. A lesson in contentment in our circumstances.

The thing is, my "hard" choice is STILL a choice, and here I am whining over "having" to watch what I eat, "having" to log my food, "having" to say "no" to the "yummies". Wow. How spoiled am I, really? I don't know what "hard" is.

Anyway, I wanted to expound a little on these thoughts today. For anyone who may be able to walk, to eat, to talk, to live the life they choose to live, these things we can never take for granted. I am guilty of taking them for granted.